The past few days, I've been hanging out with various groups of people from Scandinavia. First, one of my friends here had a group of his friends come visit and I met them for dinner/hanging out. Then, a couple of friends of mine (and their blokes) were in New York for the weekend so I went up for a visit. Based on those interactions, here are a few things I'll generalize:
1. It was nice to be introduced as "This is Priya. She lives here". I've said this before but to me New York is one of the friendliest cities I've been to. People usually give you directions (and usually with a quip)*, places give recommendations on where to go/eat (e.g. a posh shop yesterday told us about an excellent coffee shop nearby) and the atmosphere of the city is energizing. I'd never want to
live there but I love being there.
So, when my friends and I were wandering around, we got a lot of people asking us where we were visiting from. It was nice that the usual answer they gave, for me, was "she lives in Washington" or "she lives here". Of course, we usually said "She's from X but she lives in Washington" but still...the "she lives here" part is what I don't often get when being introduced around here in Washington DC. I think, after 7 years, that makes me as much of a local as anyone else so it was nice to
feel a bit of that.
2. We spent one whole day lying about on top of a rock formation in Central Park and doing nothing. Nothing. We talked a lot--about how things had been, how things were in Australia (we'd met there), holidays, stuff we do now and all that but we didn't talk (about) politics or International Relations (pointless since my friends are a bunch of students and IT programmers). We lazed about like fat contented lizards lounging on rocks. I really need more days like that.
3. "So what about friends? Isn't it hard to have friends when you're not in one place for so long?" One of the blokes asked me this and I thought that was a pretty spot on question. My first Easter here in the USA, for example, I spent with a housemate's family. I have no idea where the housemate is now. PhD-ing is a tough business and you usually lose friends along the way. I'm not just blaming PhD-ing though. I am fairly lazy and socially-awkward and tend to interact more online than in person. That's just the way it is, I guess. I just tend to know a few friends for a long time and it's okay that way.
4. On that note, "you seem to work a lot" was another phrase I was told. I guess I do. Even after the end of the dissertation-writing (and in a "real" job) this year, I am at university most days till around 7-8pm. Weekends don't really exist (the past 24 hours were the first in months I'd not read/graded/worried over writing for that long) and I volunteer as a teacher (talk about busmen's holiday). I made the point that work is fun for me. Hence the volunteer/"real" job being the same. It didn't convince the questioner though.
5. Don't ask too many questions: It was nice that when my anti-crowd, anti-people tendencies came to the fore (when we were trying to find a place to sit inside Central Park), they were pretty cool and efficiently found us the large rock formation mentioned earlier. There were no questions about: oh so you hate crowds? Why do you not like people? How do you do your job if you don't like people? etc etc. There was just, "oh, you're not keen on them? okay, we'll find somewhere else." I vote for more of this attitude in the world. Not everything needs to be explained.
6.
Hot Tub Time Machine. Two hours of my life that I'll never get back.
7. Back to regularly-scheduled programming now. Grading, worrying about writing, revising articles, etc etc. But, first (or last):
I loved the new Who. Loved it. . It helped that I was watching it at the end of a good weekend but all my concerns about the Doctor, the Companion, etc are laid to rest (for the mo). I enjoyed the humour ("You're Scots! Fry something!") and the cheesy old-fashioned special effects (it's been reported that the BBC cut the show's budget). You could pick holes in the plot but the plot isn't the point of watching a
Doctor Who story. It's the sense of adventure and wonder and silliness and I reckon this had it all. Fantastic start.
* e.g of a typical NY quip: I asked a tour guide how to get from the bus station to Central Park. He said I could go along 5th Avenue. I asked if it was a walkable distance. He looked me up and down and said, "Yes, you look like you can do with a walk and you'll see more of the city that way".
e.g. 2: When asked if we could walk a distance that turned out to be about 3 miles, another chap said: "well, you can walk anywhere. Not to hell but anywhere".